How God brought me my husband… But first, there are important things to remember and do while waiting on your future husband.
At a young age, God placed the deepest desire to be a wife in my heart.
I’ll share with you our story at the end of this blog post, but first, I would love to share lessons learned along with signs of how I knew God had brought me my husband, and ways I prayed in faith for him that made all the difference in our story!
Why Letting God Lead You to Your Husband is So Important.
When God brought me my husband, it was so special and it was truly a match made in Heaven! Marriage is such a gift, and every good and perfect gift is from above. You want to marry the right person that God has for you.
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1. You need to pick the right one the first time because that should be the only time!
In today’s culture, we see people in and out of marriages. This is not the way God has intended marriages to be!
Matthew 19:5, says “And he said, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.“
You are now one flesh, and the following verse in Matthew 19:6 says, “Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.
Who you marry is who you will/should spend the rest of your life with.. so definitely consider that before getting married!
“A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.” – Ephesians 5:31-32
2. Who you marry matters.
Before you get married, and before I met my husband, I had to think about these things.
- Who you marry matters because he will raise your kids, and kids watch and mimic their parents.
- He is supposed to be the spiritual leader of your home.
- He is supposed to love you like Christ loves the church.
- And you have to think, we are the ones who are supposed to submit to him as he submits to Christ.
I would encourage you to seek scripture about the roles of a husband and wife!
Before God Leads You To Your Spouse, These Are Some Things I Learned In the Waiting.
Why is God making me wait for a husband? So many people including myself have asked this question I’m sure no matter how long you’ve been waiting.
I really believe God is making someone wait for a husband because 1, it’s not time yet, and 2, preparing your heart is so important!
Many women have the desire to be a wife, but hear me out. The before things that you do and focus on are vital to having a healthy future marriage!
Here are some things to do before you meet your future husband.
1. Leave it to God to orchestrate your love story.
Have you ever known a couple that made you think, ‘Wow, God put them together’?
That’s a marriage I prayed for.
Before I met my husband I struggled to lay my future marriage into God’s hands. I feel like I looked everywhere for my future husband. Everywhere I went I said to myself ‘what if that’s him!’, and I remember someone telling me that if I just left it to God, my husband would come out of nowhere!
And were they right?
Don’t stress. Don’t obsess over looking for your husband yourself.
Remember: What God has for you cannot be stopped. No. Matter. What.
2. Establish close friends that will lead you closer to God.
Close friends are so important in our walk with Jesus.
“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.” – Proverbs 18:24
Find your friends that stick close to you, and truly walk with you in God’s truth! I can’t express this enough. Because even when you have your husband, friendship is a true gift to the Lord. You need both a godly husband and godly friends!
Sometimes if you struggle with something such as jealousy (just an example), your husband may not understand because men truly don’t feel the same as women about certain things!
It is so amazing to have one of your sweet godly friends talk you through things and pray for you as you walk through hard seasons.
Pray for friends that lift you up in prayer and truly love you like a sister. And if you don’t have that, pray for it! I was in that boat once too!
3. Seek God’s Word in your season of singleness.
The word of God is how we get to know the ultimate love story. Jesus loves you so so much and knowing that your worth is in Him and Him alone, is huge!
Seeking God’s word before He brought me my husband was the best thing I could have ever done. Deepening my knowledge of scripture helped me know what is righteous in God’s eyes, and how I should live.
Quiet time with God where I spent one on one time with Him boosted my confidence and helped me understand my self-worth. Jesus was all I needed and I was perfectly content with just him until he brought me my husband. (Becoming perfectly content with just Him was a process. A ton of prayer was happening!)
God knows the desires of your heart. Just lay them at his feet, and just give him your whole heart during your singleness. And honestly, enjoy it! Once you are married and have a family, you don’t get much time to yourself anymore.
The Bible is where you see how important and what a good thing marriage is. It will show you how a husband should treat his wife, along with how you as a wife should treat your husband. It is where you also come to know the heart of God and is a clear way to hear the voice of God. This will help you discern godly relationships, and what they should look like.
Remember Jesus shows us, true love. He is the ultimate love story.
I want to encourage you to study and pray over Ephesians 5:21-33!
4. Pray for yourself as a future wife.
Pray for yourself that you will be a godly wife and that you will submit to your husband as he submits to the Lord (Ephesians 5:22).
Pray that you love him fiercely even in tough situations.
I read a devotional once by Jennifer Smith on Proverbs 31 Ministries that talked about how she and her husband had a difficult time in their first few years of marriage, but God showed them where they had sin in their lives that they needed to give to God.
It’s easy to fantasize about marriage because don’t get me wrong, it is amazing, but marriage is also hard at times. So praying for yourself to have a godly heart toward your husband is so important.
It’s easy to just pray about your future husband, but cover yourself in prayer as well.
In one of my favorite books The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian The opening prayer isn’t a prayer for your husband, but it’s for you as a wife!
It’s so vital to pray for yourself to have a godly heart toward your husband. I read an article from Help Club for Moms that was so accurate in saying that this prayer at the beginning of the book “stopped her in her tracks as a new bride.”
5. Pray for the Holy Spirit to reveal the one God has for you, in His timing.
Pray that when God will reveal the one to you in a clear way.
You have to have confirmation from God on who to marry!
Having a prayer journal is so great to look back on! I love looking at mine from when I prayed for God to bring me my husband! It increases your faith for sure.
See more on prayer journaling here!
6. Trust God’s plan for your life.
I’ll say it again, there is so much freedom in this truth.
What God has for you cannot be stopped. By anyone or anything!
Pray to be content where you are in your life!
God has a plan for you, and even if it isn’t the timing you thought it would be, know his way and his thoughts are higher than our ways and our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9)!
7. You are exactly where you are supposed to be, so walk with purpose in the season of waiting.
Where you are in life is exactly where God wants you. Don’t waste your singleness! Seek God, and walk with purpose while in the waiting.
The advice of another woman in my church has stuck with me through the years.
She told me, “While you’re waiting on God to bring you your husband, don’t be concerned about how that will happen. That’s not for us to figure out. God’s got that part down! Instead, find something that you can get good at to bring into your marriage.”
Woah. That hit me hard! It made me think ‘okay, I pray all these things for my husband but what am I bringing to the table in my future marriage’.
So I got to thinking about what I needed to get good at.
So I started to cook more and tried new recipes. Then I started working out because I want to be healthy and feel confident!
And on top of that, I started digging even deeper into the Bible and my prayer life.
What are you going to bring to the table in your future marriage? Such good advice and so important to think about!
8. Be obedient to God even when it’s hard.
There are so many times I knew God had told me to do something, and most of the time it was hard. And guess what? I didn’t obey him. Biggest. Regret. Ever.
Whether it’s a boyfriend you need to leave, a habit you need to kick, whatever it is. Do it! Even when it is so hard, and even when you don’t understand I promise you God doesn’t tell us to do things to be a burden. He cares for you, and he wants and knows what is best for you.
He sees what sin does in our lives and how it will have consequences, and wants to keep you from heartache. Please take this advice I learned the hard way.
I also saw something that changed my perspective on obedience.
On a Proverbs 31 Ministries online Bible study, I saw a picture with an opening quote on it that said “Obedience is an act of worship”, and I truly have never thought of it like that.
Lesson learned. Obey Jesus. He knows what is best for you.
And please… for the love of everything in life, DO NOT settle. You got this sis! You are a daughter of the King. Wait for the one he has for you, and walk in obedience to what he has called you to do!
Clear signs I Could Tell That My Husband Was the One God Had For Me.
When God showed me that he had brought me my husband, some things confirmed that for me.
Note: The first thing you need to do when in any relationship is seek Jesus and let the Holy Spirit lead you. He will send a clear sign of confirmation!
1. He loved the Lord with all his heart, mind, soul, and strength.
From the beginning, everything my husband said or did was regarding Jesus. For example, you could tell with his decision-making, and just in everyday conversations, Jesus was at the forefront of his mind.
This made me fall in love with him. Loving God over everything is the first commandment and is the most important. You could tell that he was a true man of God.
I also knew that if he loved God more than anything, then he would love me well.
We as Christ’s followers are told to not be unequally yoked, so he needs to love and know Jesus.
2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?”
2. It felt natural and comfortable.
I never felt pressure to be perfect. We laughed, we joked, and it was just so easy! Loving him felt like the right thing to do.
I never felt uncomfortable or talked down to, and if we didn’t agree on something (which happens because it’s life), we were able to walk away knowing we would never give up on our relationship, and come back later to talk about it.
3. I felt that our relationship was secure.
There was never any question of “what are we?” or “Are we a thing?“.
He made it clear he dated to marry, and the fact that I never questioned who we were, or what we were doing in that relationship was huge!
It made me feel protected and know he wasn’t concerned or fearful of commitment.
4. He understood and valued Biblical marriage.
Early on in the relationship, we knew we were going to get married. He knew the importance of marriage, and that this was a one-time thing, and that marriage is something to fight for.
It also really helped that he was raised by godly parents who showed him what a marriage is supposed to look like.
5. He was a godly leader even when dating.
He set boundaries, set the importance of going to church, and put God first in all things. I knew that if he had this quality when dating, he would have it in marriage.
6. He had godly characteristics.
“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” – Galatians 5:22-23
When God led my husband to me, I quickly realized in the first few times of being together that he produced fruit in his life.
He had many godly characteristics that are portrayed in Galatians 5:22-23. This proved to me that He truly did know Jesus because, without Jesus, we cannot produce fruit in our lives.
Bible Verses I Kept In Mind While Waiting on God To Bring Me My Husband.
I used these to build up my own godly characteristics and to give me peace in my singleness until God brought me my husband.
Even now, these are amazing verses to live by that I meditate on daily!
- “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” –Colossians 3:12
- “And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.” – Colossians 3:17
- “People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed.” – Proverbs 10:9
- “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” – Jeremiah 29:11
- “Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” – Ephesians 3:20
Scriptures and Different Ways I Prayed For My Future Spouse. (I also continued these prayers after God brought me my husband.)
I love praying scripture. Before God brought me my husband, I continuously prayed scriptures and specific things over him and his life, and I continue to do so now!
1. To know Jesus as his Lord and Savior.
“Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” – John 14:6
I’m so grateful that my husband knows Jesus, but before I knew who he was, I constantly prayed that he would know Jesus was the way, the truth, and the life over him.
Eternal security is the most important thing in anyone’s life.
2. To love me like Christ loves the church and as he loves himself.
“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her” – Ephesians 5:25
“In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.” – Ephesians 5:28
3. To be strong during times of temptation so that any scheme or act of the enemy would be stopped.
“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” – 1 Corinthians 10:13
I prayed that my husband would always flee from temptation, and take the way out of it. I also prayed that the enemy would not have a foothold in his life and that any scheme of the enemy would be stopped.
4. That wherever he is in life, he is seeking God’s will.
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” -Matthew 6:33
I prayed that he would dig deep into God’s word, seek God’s guidance and wisdom, and he would let God lead him in all situations.
5. That he would love me deeply.
“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” -1 peter 4:8
I prayed that we would have eyes only for each other and that he would love me so much!
6. For understanding and knowledge of God.
“Asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ to give you spiritual wisdom and insights so that you might grow in your Knowledge of God. I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called-his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance. I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe him.”
–Ephesians 1:17-19
7. His protection.
I prayed that the Lord would protect him mentally, physically, and spiritually.
I prayed for his health, for his safety during transportation, and against the schemes of the enemy. Wherever he was I prayed for protection over him!
Finally… How God Led Me to My Husband!
In high school having a godly husband who loved the Lord and me so much as a major desire of my heart. I wanted nothing more than find the one that God had for me!
Unfortunately, I stayed in a toxic relationship for 4 years with a boyfriend I knew was no good. Even after so many red flags I knew staying with him was wrong, but I was terrified to be alone.
I know now so many lessons I wish I had known back then, and that your worth is not in any relationship. It’s in your heavenly Father.
During these high school years, I struggled with depression and major anxiety. I spiraled down a dark path. Satan was totally out for me.
I knew I was supposed to break up with my boyfriend, but again was afraid of being alone, and I put my worth in a boy.
What’s so crazy is little did I know my future husband was right in front of me. Literally! I had many classes with my now husband, and it is so crazy to think about how God was intertwining our stories together.
After close to 4 years of an on-and-off-again relationship, God had finally said enough and given me that courage I needed to end it once and for all.
If you know something isn’t right, pray for courage and strength to do it, and I promise you God will give it to you even if it is so hard!
He truly shut that door in a way only way God could!
I graduated high school and headed off to Middle Tennessee State University to pursue a major in Music Business. That first fall semester, on a November night, I remember feeling so broken, lonely, and unseen.
I got on my knees and cried out to God and said, “Lord, I don’t care if I am 40 years old. I will wait on who You have for me. I refuse to dwell on the thought of constantly looking for my husband. My worth is in you, and you alone. I refuse to waste my singleness. In your timing, Jesus, show me my husband, but as of right now, I lay that desire down at your feet. In Jesus’ name.”
And y’all, I meant it! I knew right then I needed to get my relationship with God right before I could ever be in a relationship or marriage.
That month and into December I took my prayer time, growth in my knowledge of scripture, and listening to His voice seriously!
When it was time for Christmas break, I packed up my dorm room and headed back home to Arkansas. The next day, I got a text from a close friend asking me to come over. She was (and still is) one of my best friends, so, of course, I said yes!
I walked through the door and gave her a huge hug, and she said “By the way someone I’m talking to and his friend is coming, I hope that’s okay!”
All I could think was ‘noooo, no boys!’ I mean I was over boys, and finally just wanted to be single for a while!
Right then, the person she was talking to along with his friend who was a familiar face from high school (my now husband) walked in.
After we talked for about 10 minutes, it was over! We were inseparable. Call it love at first conversation if you will. I instantly knew this was the man God had for me. God had brought me my husband so unexpectedly! I didn’t have to search, God did it all.
I had surrendered my relationship status to the Lord completely, and no joke a month and a half later God brought me my husband!
Now I’m not saying it works like this for everyone because it’s all the Lord’s timing and plan of how he leads you to your spouse. But I had finally had enough of doing all the searching and finding my worth in other things besides Jesus!
My husband and I had a long-distance relationship that next semester which was hard because not only was I absolutely in love with him, but he was also my best friend. Thankfully, he ended up coming with me to Tennessee to finish out college the following year. 3 years later we were married and moved back to Arkansas, and the rest is history!
God’s fingerprints are all over our story! I didn’t have to do a thing, and God brought me a husband that was the right man for me, at the right time!
Conclusions on God Bringing Me My Husband
I learned so many things in the waiting! I just want to encourage you to seek the Lord, and grow your relationship with him first if you are waiting on your spouse.
And in God’s perfect timing, he will bring you your spouse. I’m praying for each of you reading this that a piece of advice or encouragement sticks with you!
Remember, the one God has for you is worth the wait! He loves you, and he has a plan for you!
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